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May 12, 2013

Jesse Wilkerson: What is really stopping you?

ANDERSON, Ind. — When I was younger I remember watching standout basketball players in pickup games in college. I used to wonder what keeps them from going to the next level (that being college or even professional basketball teams). The same thought went for people I considered top in their class, but they never achieved overwhelming success in their career field.

I wonder how many of us have this internal drive that we have placed on autopilot. The bumps in the road, the sharp turns in life, the emotional ups and downs that altered our plans leave me with the same question, what gives? Is there something in all of us that tells us at a certain age or after a certain amount of attempts that we stop, give up, quit, and or abandon the thing we most feel compelled to be or do?

I see a lot of people who have no passion for living. We don’t have to look further than our everyday encounters. They are those who do not have the courage to quit what they are doing now to pursue what they were meant to do in life. There is no alternate plan that they have established to achieve any higher goals. They have no faith in themselves. I have tried, but I just don’t know how to just exist?  There is something always turning on the inside of me.

What does the future look like? I don’t care how close I get to the edge of any struggle. I see myself accomplishing something significant. No that’s not the right word maybe, worthwhile or meaningful. That isn’t either. Maybe life changing is more appropriate.  It doesn’t compute in my world to live life without color or meaning or drive or passion? What do you see yourself doing?

 I get it!

You are afraid to fail. You are afraid of what someone is going to say about you if you do something outside of the box that has defined your life. You have responsibilities that won’t allow you to pursue your true identity.

I have news for you. People are going to say whatever they want to say. You will fail, but failure is not the end. It is the moment that you realize that the opportunity you hold dear is real, but the path you chose might need to be refined. If I could use my words to do anything it would be to shake you at your core. I want to turn up the volume on life so that what you hear is a melody that snatches you away from where you are now to some place in your destined future.

There are so many obstacles in life that keep people from self realization?  Is it the obstacle stopping you or is it fear of failure that holds you back?

Jesse J. Wilkerson is the principal of the local architecture firm Jesse J. Wilkerson & Associates. His column appears every other Monday on the Business page.

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