Here are some scattered observations on various matters. As always, readers are free to differ with some of my opinions, at least in some cases. As MSNBC’s Al Sharpton says, “you are entitled to your own opinions, but not your own facts.”
A family gathering — this was no picnic. Nearly a year since my mom’s passing, last Saturday my sisters and I visited her grave site as a group. We wanted to view her headstone to make sure it looked the way she might want it. It did.
We locked arms in a semicircle and, since I am the eldest, I led my three sisters in a brief prayer. I thanked God for giving us our mom for so long. I asked his blessings on our entire family, down through the coming generations of mom’s grandchildren, great-grandchildren and all future generations engendered by her.
Our brief ceremony, I think, had the same effect on my sisters and me. After nearly a year of expecting her to be at home, impulsively reaching for the phone to call her, expecting to hear her voice, wanting to hear her sing and play the piano once again, we at last found closure with stark reality: our mother is dead.
By the way, my purpose in sharing this is to speak to so many others who have experienced similar “living” thoughts of a lost loved one. I believe it is all part of the grieving process. So, cherish the memories. Celebrate the blessings. And, after your time of mourning, get on with your life.
The prayer habit — my wife and I recently have started the practice of praying together each and every morning. We hold each other’s hand, and take turns leading the prayer from one day to the next. I find that these morning prayers not only bring us closer together, but bring us closer to God. Some might want to develop the prayer habit. It will do good for your mind, body, and spirit. Plus, as they say, “the family that prays together, stays together.”