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Faces of Domestic Violence

September 29, 2012

Megan Rider: 'Too early'

Chesterfield woman killed by ex-boyfriend

CHESTERFIELD, Ind. — Megan Rider came into this world early and left too early, her parents say.

The 25-year-old Chesterfield woman was always a bright child and did well in school, Ricky Rider and Dawndeena Hole recall. She was loving, giving and caring — and could be too trusting.

Megan died Feb. 13, 2011, after she was shot by ex-boyfriend Aaron Wagers, who then committed suicide. The two were living together at Ricky’s Chesterfield home. Wagers had been released from jail on bond in connection with child molestation charges about a week earlier. Ricky discovered the bodies early that morning.

Although they divorced when she was young, Megan’s parents had a good parenting relationship and shared memories of their daughter.

As Megan grew, her hair became curlier by the year until she finally had a full head of curls. Her parents said she was so proud of that hair, especially once she became a teenager.

Megan was shy as a middle school student but seemed to enjoy high school, particularly working as a mentor for special-needs students.

“I always knew she’d go into a field where she would help others,” her parents wrote to The Herald Bulletin. “At the time she was taken from us, she was working on going back to school for medical assisting.”

Megan was working for Aspire in a group home for adults with special needs, teaching them living skills. She loved the job’s rewards.

“(We were) extremely proud of her and knew she would accomplish a lot in her life,” Ricky and Dawndeena wrote. “The one thing (we) want others to know about her is that she was not stupid. She was just lied to and was way too trusting and believing in others.”

Growing up, Megan never gave her parents much trouble, though they joked she could be a “bit sneaky” at times.

“She was taken from us for absolutely no reason,” they wrote. “And we will all miss her until we meet up with her again someday.”

Megan graduated from Highland in 2004. She was a loving sister and aunt to her three nieces and nephew.

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  • Where to find help

    Alternatives Inc., 24-hour crisis line
    (765) 643-0200 or (866) 593-9999
    Kandi Floyd, Christy Clark, Dara Tracy -- victim’s advocates
    Victims Assistance Program, Madison County Sheriff’s Department
    (765) 646-4078 or (765) 646-4079
    Gay Doss, Jaime Wilhoite -- victim assistance providers
    Victim Assistance Program, Madison County Prosecutor‘s Office
    (765) 641-9673
    Melinda Padgett, Karla Montgomery, Alison Lutz, Gracie Roman, Laura Evans -- victim assistance providers
    Victim Assistance Unit, Anderson Police Department
    (765) 648-6773, Lessa Johnson, Christy Jones -- victim assistance specialists
    Sowers of Seeds Counseling, Batters’ Intervention Program
    (765) 649-3452
    Vaughn Walker -- supervisor

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