Nothing lifts a sagging ego or builds self-confidence like a word of encouragement. Tell your child you are proud of the hard work he is doing. Tell your child that you know it is not easy for him, and you KNOW that success is coming soon. Point out that the journey is long, and the distance already traveled is success in itself.
Some parents write sticky notes in folders or book bags. Others leave text messages. Some use the refrigerator as a communication center. Whatever you do to encourage your child make it often and positive.
Children often talk about how they do not have control over ANYTHING. Giving your child choices makes him feel in control. He doesn't realize that the parent has chosen the choices to be made. The choices you pick will get you the same result, but the child will feel a part of the process. The simple choices are practice for those bigger choices your child may have to make when you are not around.
A child's performance is based on what his parents expect. If a child is not sure what is expected, he will spend a lot of time trying to figure out what to do. Expectation is a two-edged sword. On one side, there is setting the bar too low and the child wastes his potential. Or the other side, the bar is set too high and your child will get frustrated and refuse to try. The secret is to know where your child is and then set the bar just a little higher. Obtainable goals build the desire to try again. Lofty goals destroy the will to succeed.
Being a model for your child is probably one of the most important gifts you can give. Practice what you preach. If you want him to read, read yourself. If you want him to be kind, demonstrate kindness. If you want him to accept others, show him that differences make the world an interesting place. Your child watches you constantly and wants to be you. Show him the type of person you want him to be.