Charlie Skiles was a teenager who was friendly, upbeat and had a positive energy, his father recently recalled. But at 15, Charlie had also suffered from depression for two years. His anti-depressants, however, weren’t enough to stop him from committing suicide on Aug. 23.
The sadness associated with Charlie’s passing is almost unbearable, not only for his family but even strangers who hear the account.
His father, however, is trying to get the word out about the warning signs of suicide. For one, his son began cutting himself about two weeks before the suicide. The father says he will forever regret not taking action. Similarly, Charlie’s Facebook account indicated something was wrong yet his friends didn’t understand the seriousness of his postings.
The impact of suicide goes beyond the sufferer. It leaves an emotional scar on the survivors. That’s why it is so important for friends, relatives and co-workers to watch for signs of depression.
Perhaps a reminder of those signs can never be repeated enough.
Listen carefully if a friend or relative talks about wanting to die, purchases a gun, says there’s no reason to live or feels like a burden to others. Keep an eye out for increased use of alcohol or drugs. Watch for a person who becomes anxious or reckless, sleeps too little or too much or becomes withdrawn or isolated.
Those with depression typically have a sudden shift in attitude to happiness, which may indicate they have come to terms with a decision to commit suicide. Watch for someone who gives away their possessions or makes a round of goodbye visits.
Oftentimes, we hear of a suicide attempt and become more fascinated with the sensational aspect — for example, a man who in August, drove into an Interstate 69 guardrail and put a hole in his head with a power drill in a suicide attempt. Or we read of an Ohio girl who committed suicide after she was bullied by other students.
But for the most part, suicides aren’t the subject of news articles unless they are committed in a public setting. What often creates a headline is the remorse that someone has after a friend or family member commits suicide.
Urge them to get help.
Dial 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which has operators ready to talk. That number is 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
Don’t come to regret your inaction.
How to get help If you're having suicidal thoughts, reach out. Talk to family, friends or medical professionals, such as the behavioral health team at the Madison County Community Health Center. The phone number is (765) 442-0562. Another option is dialing 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which has operators ready to talk 24/7. That number is 1-800-273-TALK (8255).