“Probably about half of couples out there will have some sort of impaired fertility at some point,” he said. “It’s incredibly common.”
The Fertuccis said they didn’t know anyone around them had issues conceiving until they revealed their own. Since then, Stephanie said she’s discovered how many of her friends have gone through the same thing.
“You don’t talk about it unless someone else has it, and I think that’s what’s so sad, that we do that to ourselves,” Stephanie said.
She said people who haven’t had fertility issues don’t fully understand how stressful it is to have to keep track of ovulation and having to have sex on certain days.
“And I think it’s that sex piece so no one want to talk about it and are embarrassed,” she said. “… We’re not, obviously.”
If either of them had cancer, Stephanie said they wouldn’t feel ashamed to tell people, so they don’t feel embarrassed about their fertility issues since it’s a medical condition.
She also doesn’t see Matt’s low sperm count as his problem, but their problem.
Bopp said oftentimes people put the blame on what’s wrong with the woman, but that’s not the reality of it. Out of the couples who have trouble getting pregnant, 40 percent of the problems are a female factor, 40 percent a male factor and 20 percent a combination.
After the age of 35, women’s fertility decrease significantly. By the age of 43, women have less than a one percent chance to conceive naturally, Bopp said. Meanwhile men’s fertility can start to decrease in their 40s and 50s.
Stephanie said she feels the pressure to get pregnant as soon as possible.
“I’ll be 31 in April and I know it seems young, but (gynecologically) it’s not,” she said.