ANDERSON, Ind. — Summer months are wedding time. And after months (and maybe years) of planning, the wedding may feel like the finish line in many ways
Actually, it is only the beginning — the beginning of a road that promises to prove rocky at times. The Herald Bulletin spoke to couples who have been married for 20, 35 and 50 years to acquire a little advice to keep a relationship on the right path long after the “I do’s” have been done.
Larry and Wendy Lipps, married 20 years
Wedding date: Aug. 8, 1992
Children: Ana Beth, 17; Micah, 15; Caleb, 13, and Jesse, 8.
How they met: Both were church camp counselors in Ohio
Keep the faith
“Our faith is very important to us and drives all our decisions,” said Larry, director of operations for Rainbow Christian Camp in Converse. “Any marriage has to be grounded in sacrifice. The minute you say I’m going to spend the rest of my life with you, you have to work hard at putting yourself second or third or fourth. It’s absolute. I don’t know how you could make it in a marriage where your demand your way all the time.”
“We believe in the commitment we made,” agreed Wendy, a music teacher at three schools and a part of the Born Learning Initiative. “When times get tough, we fall back on that commitment and stay true to our word.”
“We celebrate and enjoy our diversity,” said Larry. “We intentionally did not blow out the two individual candles when we lit the unity candle at our wedding. That was very symbolic to us. We both knew that lighting the middle candle didn’t mean that either one of us would disappear.”
“We were very much our own people,” said Wendy. “We were in our late twenties when we got married, so we already had two of everything on the bridal registry. We had a yard sale before the wedding to get rid of stuff.”