ANDERSON, Ind. —
“There are some things that will never change,” said Larry. “I am an early riser and she likes to sleep in. She is quiet and introspective and I like to spill it all over the table. It drives us crazy but we laugh about it.”
“When we start to get upset, we stop and remember our commitment,” added Wendy. “We decide whether this is something to really be upset about or not.”
Enjoy time together
“You have to have a sense of humor and enjoy spending time together,” said Wendy. “You need to really like the other person and not just have that storybook romantic feeling.”
Darrell and Cheryl Stephens, married 35 years
Wedding date: July 3,1977
Children: Two grown children and three grandsons
How they met: They were high school sweethearts at Anderson High.
Respect your spouse
“I feel like you have to have a line of respect for the other person,” said Cheryl, a hair stylist at Designs by Studio 4. “It goes back to the Golden Rule. I have friends that have divorced and remarried and all they did was trade one set of problems for another. We all have our issues.”
Develop similar interests
“When we got married, she was 19 and I was 20,” said Darrell, an engineer at Remy International. “We grew up together and grew to have the same interests. We went places together and on vacations together and just liked and disliked the same things.”
“Our work schedules made it so that if we were going to do something, we were going to do it together, and that helped,” added Wendy.
“The best part of marriage is that you have someone to do things with all of the time,” said Larry.
“People need to remember that marriage is a covenant, not a contract,” said Larry.