The Herald Bulletin

November 1, 2013

Verna Davis: Families just agree to disagree, but do so with love

By Verna Davis
For The Herald Bulletin

— I have heard it said that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family. Before my family disowns me, let me explain that my relatives are good people. We don’t always agree with one another. We’ve gone to different schools and colleges, have different jobs. Our choices of movies to see and books to read are different. We live in different parts of the country and have different political views. We’re not a thing like each other, but we’re family, and we love to spend time with each other.

I have a relative (and I’m sure you have one just like him) who loves to argue politics. He has often been known to shake his head at someone from the other side of the political spectrum and say, “I just don’t know how you can look at yourself in the mirror.” He’s not a thing like me, but he’s family, and I love to spend time with him.

Then there’s my “Southern Kin.” They speak with a drawl accented with sassy Southern phrases. We “Nuhthenuhs” spend most of our time asking each other, “What did they say?” They’re not a thing like me, but they’re family, and I love to spend time with them.

Some of my family laugh easily, while others tend to cry at Hallmark commercials. Some are Christians and actively involved in their churches while others go to church only for weddings and funerals. Some may be donned in designer duds, while others don’t seem to understand what is proper to wear out in public. Some will be smoking, some will be drinking, and some may be disapproving of those who do. Some may share certain physical characteristics while some may look like they belong in another family. But one thing is for sure. We’re family, and we love to spend time with each other.

Hebrews 2:11 says, “Both the one who makes men holy and those who are made holy are of the same family. So Jesus is not ashamed to call them brothers.” God told us, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters,” says the Lord Almighty,” 2 Corinthians 6:18. The sacrifice of Jesus for our sins is what makes us family. “You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus,” Galatians 3:26-28.

Those who don’t attend church don’t always understand that the church is not a building or a location. The church is the people of God. The church is made of people with all kinds of differences that are held together by their mutual love of Jesus. Each Sunday morning and each meeting throughout the week is like a family reunion, for we’re family, and we love to spend time with each other.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins,” (1 Peter 4:8).

Verna Davis, author and speaker, lives in Frankton. She can be reached at Vrdspeaks@yahoo.com.