It has finally happened. I never thought I would be able to say, “Well, I’ve never been asked that before,” because I thought I had been asked just about everything. However, yesterday one of my teenage friends asked me, “Verna, just how do I go about finding a wife? I mean, how did husbands find wives in the Bible?”
Hmm .... let’s see. Well, Moses found his wife, Zipporah, in an unusual way. He was running from Egypt because he was wanted for murder. When he came to a strange land, he saw seven sisters watering their flocks. He helped them, and their father was so impressed with Moses’ chivalry, he gave him one of his daughters to marry. (Exodus 2:16-21).
Samson saw a woman that attracted him, and rather than go up and introduce himself, he went home and told his Mommy and Daddy, “I have seen this woman, and I want her. Now go get her for me.” And it was done! (Judges 14:1-3).
One could always find a wife by holding a beauty contest and marrying the winner. That’s how King Xerxes found Esther. Or one could find a prostitute and marry her like Hosea did. I suppose if a man is really desperate he could ask God to create a wife for him while he was sleeping, even thought it might cost him a rib.
We could always plan a party like the Benjamites did. The women dress up and go out to dance. The men hide and watch the women. When they find one they like, the jump out, grab her, and carry her off for an impromptu wedding. (Judges 21:19-25).
Then there’s the kind who work for their wives. Jacob agreed to work for seven years for his beautiful Rachel. Yet when he woke up the morning after the wedding, he found he had married runny-eyed Leah. But in order to marry the one he loved, Jacob agreed to work seven more years. That’s 14 years of labor for the love of his life, a commitment any wife could depend on!